Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Learning too much from the past?

Decision making is a very important aspect in all spheres of our life; be it business, academics, profession, personal life etc. Given the nature of Indian society, our decisions naturally get altered based on our surroundings, upbringing and more importantly our past experience.
I read the below article in my favorite news paper The Hindu Businessline, which succinctly describes all these factors which we consider in the decision making process. The crux of the article is, while it is good to have rich experience in framing a decision, it is equally important to focus on the process. Time, people and situations change. We must learn from the past and alter the process based on the current environment. I always believe, in any life game, the rules or the processes which added value to you or to the society a few years ago might not necessarily add value now. Therefore, it is necessary to learn our lessons hard and correct ourself.
Since, I keep a lot of interest in politics, I hope Modiji our PM reads this article and understands that whatever worked in past might not necessarily work in future.

Here's the article from the hindu businessline.


What worked in the past may not work in the future unless we focus on the process.


We rely on the weight of experience to make judgments and decisions. We interpret the past – what we’ve seen and what we’ve been told – to chart a course for the future, secure in the wisdom of our insights. After all, didn’t our ability to make sense of what we’ve been through get us where we are now? It’s reasonable that we go back to the same well to make new decisions.

It could also be a mistake.

Experience seems like a reliable guide, yet sometimes it fools us instead of making us wiser.

The problem is that we view the past through numerous filters that distort our perceptions. As a result, our interpretations of experience are biased, and the judgments and decisions we base on those interpretations can be misguided.

If our goal is to improve decision-making, we can use our knowledge of those filters to understand just what our experience has to teach us and learn how to overcome our biases.

We focus on what we can see
In the business environment, the outcomes of decisions are highly visible, readily available for us to observe and judge. But the details of the decision process, which we can control far more than the result, typically don’t catch our attention. If the aim is to learn from experience – mistakes as well as successes – acknowledging that process is crucial.

Circle of advisers
Honest feedback – an unbiased, undistorted assessment of one’s experience – is essential for improving decisions. Yet decision makers are often surrounded by individuals who have incentives to feed them censored and self-serving information – and these people are not necessarily a crowd of yes-men.

Overvaluing experience
We can’t place all the blame for our distorted view of the world on the environment and our inner circle. Some of the blame lies with us. We tend to search for and use evidence that confirms our beliefs and hypotheses, and we gloss over or ignore information that contradicts them – an exercise of selectively building and interpreting experience known as the confirmation bias.

How not to be fooled
The following techniques can uncover the real lessons experience offers and help you base decisions on a clearer view of the world.

Sample failure: Failures and the processes that lead to them are doomed to stay in the dark unless special occasions are created to bring them to light. To identify what could be done better in the future, companies can also conduct decision post-mortems to analyse underlying processes.

Don’t miss near misses: Another oft-ignored event is the near miss – a failure that’s disguised as a success, but only because there are generally no dire consequences.

Pursue prevention: Recognising a potential problem requires a different approach than solving an actual problem. One strategy is to harness employees’ collective talents by allowing people to raise concerns about the firm’s operations. Disagree: As Peter Drucker wrote, “The first rule in decision making is that one does not make a decision unless there is disagreement.” To devise healthy strategies, executives need to hear many perspectives.

Disconfirm: Rather than finding clues that corroborate your hunch – all too easy in an information-rich world – start by asking yourself how you could know you were, in fact, wrong.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Heartbreak

Every single person under the sun will go through the pain of heartbreak in his/her life. The pain is one thing which everyone from all walks of life, can relate to.No one in the world will be able to instantly take away your tears or heal the wounds that have been inflicted upon you. Only time can help here. However, what is hardly ever said about heartbreak is , the lessons we learn and take away in the times of emotional tragedy.

Without love for the other, there would never be this pain. And, without heartbreak, there would never be such amazing love. This may sound like the ultimate paradox, but losing someone you love proves to be an incredible learning and growing experience. You may be reading this thinking “Fuck you, you bastard. My heart’s in shambles right now and you want me to think this is going to turn into a good thing?” As confusing and almost insane as it may sound, having this happen may change you in so many different ways. One thing which it will do is definitely bring you out of your comfort zone. Your preconceived notions about people will change.

Having a hard goodbye, to someone you love, is one of the toughest thing to do but moving on with your life will only enhance the times you have with other loved ones. Going forward it will only deepen every minute you spend with the people about whom you truly care. 

One important lesson which you will learn is to be able to start forgiving with more ease and forgetting about the things that don’t really matter so much. Your endurance to bear this hardship will only make you a stronger person. You will be able to make out whom you should let in and who can’t stay in your life.This will open your whole life up to more and more great experiences because you will be able to share it with people who genuinely care for you and whom you really care for.

Nevertheless, it’s not a perfect system and it should not happen to anyone. Sometimes we become absolutely helpless. But, there will be another tomorrow, another day felt with warmth,affection,passion and love will embrace you one day..

Just remember that your bumps and bruises will heal and the scars will faint over the period of time. Time will help you heal, and heartbreak itself will help you grow. In what is, undeniably, the hardest, most painful life lesson one could ever learn, heartbreak will help mould the rest of your life. Only if you don't let the heartbreak get converted into a setback, it will teach you to love better and love more and more importantly value love....... 

Monday, November 3, 2014

Instant and Delayed gratification....

Gratification is an important aspect in human behaviour. Primarily it is instant gratification and delayed gratification. As humans we are always tempted to take decisions which suits us now, without thinking about its ramifications. It is not that this behaviour is prevalent only in teenage or early 30s, but repetitive thing. Looking back at your life retrospectively will help you understand what I am talking about. Think it this way – compare you and your parents and probably the coming generation too – our parents used to first earn money, then save it and then spend on whatever surplus they had. On the other hand, we first spend money and earn to payback the same and then save some if at all there is some surplus available. In a way our parents got delayed gratification. It’s important to realize that we give in more to instant gratification.This principle of instant and delayed gratification is applicable in all aspects of our life. Be it marriage, financial investment, career decisions etc. We need to win the war over instant gratification and need to envision what are the long term goals of our life. What is that we must to now, so that we reap a much better yield after 10-15 years? I am not a proponent of always being in the future and ruin your present, but having long term goals as well the attitude to safeguard your present will help your overcome this. I for one believe that we will have to find a middle path between instant and delayed gratification, because neither of them can keep us happy always. Its important that we don’t sink in to the marshland of debt and misery and neither do we ruin our present by over-thinking of the unforeseen future. Stay afloat is what I have learnt in life.In my subsequent blogs I will share more details on how I have lost and gained from either of these behaviours. Here I am sharing these articles which I came across and found then good leisurely reads:



Monday, October 6, 2014

Your mate probably doesn't go to work with you, but his or her influence does.

This article exactly summarizes my thought process. No matter how intelligent you are, or how hardworking you are; your success will depend upon how your life partner is. You might buy an expensive car, a big house with all modern amenities, but your happiness will only depend on how your partner is.....  I just wonder why this guy had to do a Ph.D to do this analysis.. :P

Nevertheless, a good read to share:
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          “Your husband, wife, or sweetheart probably doesn’t come to work with you every day,” says Brittany Solomon. “But his or her influence clearly does.”
Solomon, a Ph.D. candidate in psychology at Washington University in St. Louis, recently led a study analyzing the careers and personalities of about 5,000 married people, aged 19 to 89, over a five-year period. About 75% were in two-career couples.
The conclusion: Employees of both sexes who scored highest on three measures of occupational success—salary increases, promotions, and job satisfaction—all went home at night to mates with the personality type known as “conscientious.” These are people who are reliable, consistent, detail-oriented, and organized. The study, “The Long Reach of One’s Spouse: Spousal Personality Influences Occupational Success,” will be published in a forthcoming issue of the journal Psychological Science.
Note to singles: If you’re aiming high at work, you might want to settle down with someone conscientious. Psychologists often categorize people according to four other broad measures: openness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Although previous studies show that “people tend to look for a potential mate with a high degree of agreeableness and low neuroticism, our findings suggest that anyone with ambitious career goals would be better off looking for a supportive partner with a highly conscientious personality,” Solomon notes.
          A mate’s conscientiousness boosts career success in three ways, the study found. First is what the researchers call “outsourcing,” which means it’s a lot easier to concentrate on your next brilliant idea at work if someone else can be counted on to make sure the dog has all his shots, the car gets inspected on time, and the kids are fed. Also, the ability to depend on a significant other cuts down on overall stress and makes work-life balance easier to manage, for men and women alike.But beyond the day-to-day practicalities, a conscientious partner exerts a subtler, more pervasive influence. “Conscientious people tend to be resilient in the face of setbacks, and they’re thorough. They finish what they start,” says Solomon. “Over time, those traits can rub off on a spouse. People often unconsciously emulate those they live with—and the qualities we associate with ‘conscientious’ types are the same ones that lead to success in a career.”

Source: Entrepeneur

Sunday, October 5, 2014

LIC Jeevan Rekha T.No.52

         One of the common topics related to the investment in 80C is LIC policies. There are various investment options available like PPF, NSC bonds, EPS and other govt securities. But insurance is an instrument which provides you and your family a contingency cover. My dad enrolled my for a LIC policy namely LIC Jeevan Rekha T No 52 in the year 2006. Since last 4 years I am paying the premiums and I used to crib upon paying a lot of premium on insurance policies. Recently I tried to understand what my policy is all about and is it really worth it investing so much in it.

In case of Jeevan Rekha, the minimum age of entry for this policy is 13 years completed while the maximum age is 65 years. The single premium paying terms available are 5,10,15,20 and 25 years and premiums payable for life.
The minimum sum assured is Rs 2 lakh and thereafter in multiples of Rs 10,000.The survival benefits equivalent to 10% of the basic sum assured are paid out to the life assured on survival after every five years from the date of commencement of the policy. For a 20-year term, 20%, 20%, 20% and 40% of the sum assured are paid out in the fifth , 10th, 15th and 20th year respectively. The policy matures on the death of the policy holder whereby the sum assured along with vested bonuses are payable, irrespective of survival benefits paid already. Also, if the policyholder survives till 85 years of age(which I would certainly looking at the lifeline on my palm), he would receive 100% of the assured sum - with bonus. Hence, if the policyholder lives till 85 years of age, he effectively receives 200% of the assured sum including the money paid back during the premium term.


Now my sum assured is Rs 10,00,000. The policy term is 15 years. I pay a premium of 46,700 every year. Every 5 years I would get Rs 1,00,000.The LIC India website public disclosure says that a bonus of 44Rs/1000/year has been declared on an average for this policy. Which means the vested bonus for last 8 years should be around Rs 3,52,000. Assuming the same blended average for next 7 years, the bonus amount on maturity should be Rs 6,60,000. So at the time of maturity I should be getting Rs 10,00,000 (Sum Assured) + Rs 6,60,000 + loyalty bonus if it is declared at that time = Rs 16,60,000(+ 3,00,000 which I had already received every 5th consecutive year). And thereafter maturity I will receive 1,00,000 every 5 years till the age of 85. So I am waiting for 2021, to get a big fat cheque which I would have never received otherwise.. :P

So the highlight of these policies is that they offer you both regular returns all through the term along with a lifelong cover. Thus, they not only provide for your financial needs at every stage of your life, but also ensure the security of the family in case of death.

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P.S: This policy is no longer available for sale, so do not take it as an endorsement or advertisement initiative. This is just an analysis I did for myself and thought of publishing it on my blog.



Monday, September 29, 2014

Lessons of life....

It’s been more than 5 years now that I am out of college. I always tell my friends that 22nd year is the best year of your life. It is because you are just out of your college and probably you are just into your new job. There are no high expectations at office nor are you answerable to anybody for your studies, expenses, for the time you spend. To say the least you really do not have any responsibility on you. But the situation changes fast as you grow. I personally feel that I have changed a lot in last 5 years. In our instant gratification culture, it's easy to forget that most personal change does not occur as a single static event in time, but rather as a long, gradual evolution where we're hardly aware of it as its happening. We wake up one day and suddenly notice wild, life-altering changes in ourselves. Our identities slowly shift, like sea sand getting pushed around by the ocean, slowly accumulating into new contours and forms over the passage of time.It's only when we stop years or decades later and look back that we can notice all of the dramatic changes that have taken place. Last few years were certainly dramatic, but here are 3 lessons I have learnt hard:

1.Fail early and often: Time is the only asset you have.


When you are young, your greatest asset is not your talent, not your ideas, not your experience, but your time. Time grants you the opportunity to take big risks and make big mistakes. I started investing in stock markets in the beginning of my career. A little more lust for money tempted me to put all the eggs in one basket and play bigger games in derivatives. Eventually I lost all my money but I learnt my lessons hard. I still thank God that I lost it all at a very young age when I had no responsibilities on me and neither was I answerable to anyone. Moreover, you aren't strapped by all of the financial responsibilities that come with later adulthood: mortgage payments, car payments, daycare for your kids, life insurance and so on. This is the time in your life where you have the least amount to lose by taking some long-shot risks, so you should take them. Nevertheless, it thought me the value of money and I learnt basic investing lessons by losing.


2.You can’t force friendships.

There are two types of friends in life: the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like nothing's changed, and the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like everything's changed. I am out of home since 11 years now. I have stayed at Aurangabad, Mysore, Hyderabad, Pune and of course my home town, Hingoli. That means I have left a lot of friends behind in various places. What I have learnt is you cannot force friendship with anyone. You might have very good friends in college or probably in your early career when you are single, but it is the truth of life that times change, people change, responsibilities do come in their way and slowly you lose keeping in touch with many of them. It’s not that those people whom you didn’t keep contact with were bad people or bad friends, just that life becomes too busy. It’s nobody’s fault. We have to reconcile and resign to the fact that life change, people change and so do their and your own priorities. What happened in your late teenage might not happen in your late 20s and early 30s. Those cacophonous fantasies and activities eventually fade out.

3.The sum of small things matters much more than bigger things.

We have a propensity to assume things just happen as they are. We tend to only visualize the result of things and not the arduous process (and all of the failures) that would go into producing the result. I think when we're young, we have this idea that we have to do just this one big thing that is going to completely change the world, top to bottom. I have faced such situation prominently at office, when I see seniors around me who are well settled, have a good home, a big car and spend lavishly on their lifestyle. And this is the phase when you too want exactly same things in your life and you start dreaming big. That’s a good thing btw. But we need to realize that those "big things" are actually comprised of hundreds and thousands of daily small things that must be silently and unceremoniously maintained over long periods of time with little fanfare.


Wednesday, September 17, 2014

One Idiot

Here is  a small 30 minutes movie called “One Idiot“, by IDFC foundation, released to spread financial literacy for today’s generation which feels that life is all about spending and looking “cool”. The movie is directed by Amol Gupte, who had also directed the movie “Taare Zameen Par”. The movie ‘One Idiot’, shows how a bunch of students who are in their early 20’s make fun of a guy who looks dumb and does not believe in showing off, only to find out later one day that he is actually a multi millionaire, living and enjoying his life. The overall message of the movie is that you have to be prudent and responsible when it comes to money and start your systematic investments however small they are and over a long term, you will be on path of financial freedom.



Overall I think you should watch this movie and also share it with your children who are in school and going to enter their working life.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

A journey called life

        What really is life? Learning how to walk, how to talk, going to school, experiencing the first youthful emotions, stepping out of home away from the family. It's all about discovering the wonderful world full of friends, reluctantly acknowledging the feeling that time has come for tying the knot, feeling the joy of a baby's smile, watching it grow up, shape up its future and so on.

All this time we are so engrossed in our conventional routine and planning for future that we forget to live the present. One day we realize how fast time has travelled only to review the past which might bring both joy to our heart and tears to our eyes. If this is what we call is life then I feel it is too predictable and mechanical. It is like watching a typical masala movie. There is no art in it. 


After so many phases of evolution, man has forgotten the beauty of a sunrise, the magical sound of the rain, the mystical feeling of the dawn, the serene life of the night, the saintly face of the moon. There is no time to watch all of these. We are running after a mirage. We are running because everyone around us is doing the same.

So for a moment we must stop and think about how far we have progressed. We must find answers to the questions that life has put before us and feel the joy of solving one of its riddles. If we do not do this then we will just be passing on the baton of eternal quest to our successors. We need to somehow find the rhythm of life. It's is a journey, not a destination. The purpose of this life must simply be to live it to the fullest and reach out eagerly without fear for newer and better experiences.